100 Days

On the 27th February 2017, this was the 100th day since you left us.

In the blink of an eye, 100 days had gone by. You have left behind a legacy that few people can match up to, your best testimonial is the unity and bonding of the extended family tree of five generations under your matriarch leadership over the past few decades, beyond the times when you are no longer around us.

I wrote a tribute to you and your legacy as the matriarch of the extended family, after we marked the 49th day, this testimonial to you took a bit longer than what I had initially planned to write. I am glad and relieved that it was off my chest, into my own tribute and testimonial article for you and on you.

As we marked the 100th day, the extended family come together again to remember you, your wisdom, stories and adventures. Walking up the hill on a beautiful Monday morning, paying a visit to your final resting place, we saw nice little plants growing on top of your little garden. I personally think it is a fitting tribute to you, I still remember you growing vegetables and crops in the garden beside your home.

There was a little red flower that stood out among the small plants and crops when we were there visiting you, blooming beautifully on your 100th day. Do I want to put photographs in this article? I should though, then I decided to do something different, a photographs only article of my 100 days tribute on my photography site.

Dearest Grandma, you may not longer be physically around us, your presence, aura, legacy, divine protection and blessings will always be among us, looking after us , all five generations under your charge, from above the sky.

Lest We Forget. Your memories and legacy lives forever. I will and we will always remember your teachings and wisdom.

3 weeks of pain, shock, agony and sadness

Today, is the 27th November 2016, it’s a Sunday. This is just like any other Sunday except that it is a day whereby I start to recover from a period of pain, shock, worry, anxiety, agony and sadness over the past three weeks. The year 2016 had already been a very difficult year for me with all the things that happened. The life events that took place over the past three weeks from 27th November 2016 just piled it up even further and higher.

In September 2016, I lost a senior Scout Master from Hawaii who passed away due to an illness. He was somebody that I respected and learned a lot from, his passing was a big loss to me. Two months later in November, I lost 2 more people, 1 is my university junior that I knew when she first arrived for her first semester and I was in my final year. The other is the head of my extended family, the matriarch, my paternal grandmother. This was a huge blow to me, receiving news of two people’s passing one after another.

Three weeks ago from today, I was feeling very worries and anxious over my Grandmother’s condition after my parents came back from Malaysia visiting hero over the weekend. I wasn’t able to come along due to a clash of schedule. I am going to live with this regret forever in my life when I wasn’t able to see my Grandmother for one last time before she passed on.

My university junior passed away suddenly in Hong Kong on 12th November and I was probably one of the earlier group of friends that received this heart breaking news first from my fellow university friends. I kept quiet and didn’t want to say anything on social media. Her passing was eventually reported by the newspapers. I attended her funeral wake on 19th November night, it was painful and sad to see a young lady, with full of zest and energy, a role model, lady entrepreneur, being taken away to another place in the sky above.

On 20th November early morning, I was awaken abruptly by parents that my Grandmother passed on. My biggest fear came true, it was very shocking and I had to make arrangements to cancel and postpone my scheduled things for the week. After that, our family quickly rushed into Malaysia for her funeral that was held for five days. Being the eldest grandson in the extended family carry some responsibilities and I went through them during the rituals performed during my Grandmother’s funeral.

My paternal Grandmother passed away at a ripe old age of 99. While everyone of us in the extended family were very sad and heartbroken, we were also celebrating the life of our matriarch, 5 generations under her, at a ripe old age of 99, a legacy and a role model for the 5 generations to follow under her. My Grandmother lived a good life with good fortune at a ripe old age.

I am going to write more about them in the coming weeks ahead. The past three weeks had been very very difficult for me, mentally and emotionally. The pain, shock, worry, anxiety, agony and sadness over the past three weeks. I was heartened by the messages, support and encouragement from relatives and friends.

Today, I begin another round of recovery process and journey, totally different from the situations that took place in the first quarter of the year 2016. I am very grateful and appreciative of the support and encouragement from relatives and friends. My emotional, mental and state of mind wasn’t exactly in the best of shape for the past three weeks

You’ll Never Walk Alone.

Lest We Forget, my matriarch Grandmother and my university junior Linda.

Happy Chinese Lunar New Year 2015!

Today marks the first day of  the new year, the Year of the Goat! I would like to wish all my friends and followers

Happy Chinese Lunar New Year 2015!

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Let’s all enjoy this festive period, a time for family reunion and friends gathering! May the Year of the Goat be a great year for all of you! Wishing all great health and prosperity for the Year of the Goat and may this year be like the River Hongbao 2015 CNY eve countdown fireworks, big and shining bright for you!

A Time for Family and Friends Reunion

Today, 18th February 2015, it’s the eve of the Chinese Lunar New Year. The eve is always an important day, for family reunion and gathering, enjoying the family dinner together. While some may have gone overseas for their holidays, or unable to spend their reunion dinner and gathering with their family since they are living overseas.

Let’s take the time to enjoy the festive Chinese Lunar New Year, welcoming the Year of the Goat tomorrow on 19th February 2015! It’s not just family reunion, this is also a time for friends gathering. Let this be a time for gatherings and reunions, I would try my best to catch up with family, relatives and friends.

Have a great and fun time at your family/relatives/friends reunion and gathering over the Chinese Lunar New Year festive period! Happy holidays too!

Beautifully Imperfect

In today’s society, people are facing stress levels, pressures, luxuries and temptations etc etc …. These put a heavy burden on relationships on themselves, between family members, loved ones, friends and colleagues.

This was a TV commercial produced in Singapore launched by the Ministry of Community Development, Youth and Sports (MCYS), with the title of the video, Funeral ~ looking at relationships in a different light 

 

Funeral is something that is not discussed openly, however, this video strike a deep chord inside me. In a relationship, have we failed to understand and appreciate a person’s character, personality, their good and bad habits/points ?

– Have we wanted/demanded the other party to be 100% perfect all the time ? Before that, are you 100% perfect yourself in the first instance ?

– Have we failed to understand and appreciate the other party/person weakness, their imperfections ?

A quote from the video ~ “Small things that you remember, these little imperfections that make them perfect for you”

Are you beautifully imperfect ?